The Mind Behind Love

Does being in control make you feel safe?On the surface, control looks like strength. You make the plans, keep things organized, and handle problems quickly. People may even admire your decisiveness and drive. But beneath the surface, control is often fueled by fear — the fear of things falling apart, of being hurt, or of not being good enough unless everything is under your watch.Real confidenc..

Do you feel worthy only when you're useful to others?Many people confuse being needed with being loved. On the surface, it may look like compassion or selflessness — always helping, fixing, supporting. But deep down, it’s often rooted in a dangerous belief: “If I’m not needed, I’m not enough.”This pattern usually forms in childhood, especially in environments where love was conditional. If you h..

When You Don’t Feel Worthy of Real Love (Self-Worth & Attachment Series #1)Have you ever met someone who offered you calm, kind, secure love—yet instead of feeling safe, you felt nervous, suspicious, or even undeserving? Sometimes, the scariest thing isn’t being rejected. It’s being loved in a way we never believed we deserved.In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores the emotional and psychological r..