The Mind Behind Love

Love PsychologyEp17: Why Do We Fall for Emotionally Unavailable People?“Why do I always fall for people who don’t open up emotionally?”It’s a question that haunts even the strongest of us. You give warmth — they grow colder. You reach out — they shut down. And the worst part? You keep falling for the same kind of person. Over and over again. 😢This post will change the way you understand that pa..

It’s not love if your nervous system is always in overdrive. That’s anxiety—and it’s asking for safety, not romance.Many people confuse anxiety for chemistry. The butterflies. The obsession. The constant waiting. It feels exciting—until it feels exhausting. Anxious love keeps you chasing clarity that never comes. You’re not building connection; you’re fighting for reassurance.Why Anxious Love Fe..

We don’t fall for what’s good for us—we fall for what feels like home. And sometimes, home was chaos.Have you ever felt instantly connected to someone—like you’ve known them forever? That sense of “familiarity” can feel romantic, even magical. But often, it’s not magic. It’s your nervous system recognizing an emotional pattern from the past. And that pattern isn’t always healthy.Why Familiarity ..

They weren’t consistent, kind, or ready—but you kept hoping they’d become all three.There’s a romantic trap many people fall into: We meet someone who isn’t quite right—but something about them sparks hope. So we stay, invest, and wait. Not for who they are now, but for who they might become. This is what it looks like to fall for potential instead of reality.Why We Romanticize PotentialWe see t..

Not everyone who says “I love you” is really saying “I see you.”There’s a confusing dynamic in modern relationships: You meet someone who showers you with attention, praises you, and seems totally into you. But over time, something feels off. You give more and feel less seen. You start to wonder: Do they love me… or just love being loved?What Does “Loving to Be Loved” Look Like?It’s about valida..

Love should be warm and safe, but for some, it feels like walking into a fire.Have you ever loved someone deeply—only to watch them pull away just when things got serious? This emotional pattern, often called "love avoidance," is more common than we think. And it usually hides a history of emotional pain, attachment anxiety, or deep-rooted self-doubt.Why Love Feels Dangerous to SomeFear of rejec..

"Everything is fine… so why do I feel like something is wrong?"You’re dating someone who communicates well. They’re kind, consistent, and emotionally available. There’s no drama, no mind games. And yet, inside your chest — a flutter of anxiety. You’re waiting for the other shoe to drop. You wonder if you’re losing interest. Or if it’s "too good to be true."This is called safety anxiety — the dis..

Why do we keep ending up in relationships that hurt?You meet someone kind. They communicate well. They respect your boundaries. And yet... something inside you feels off. Maybe even bored. Meanwhile, the moment someone inconsistent or emotionally distant shows up, your heart races. You feel "chemistry." You feel "pulled."This isn’t love. It’s recognition. You're not drawn to them because they’re..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 9: Why We Fall for People Who Can’t Love Us BackYou give. You try. You wait. And still, they pull away. You’re left wondering why you keep falling for people who don’t—or won’t—love you back.This post by Dr. Paul Lee explores why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable people, what it says about our own attachment patterns, and how to begin choosing the love we ac..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 8: Why We Feel Addicted to the Wrong PersonYou know they’re not good for you. They make you anxious, confused, even hurt— but you still wait for their message. You still hope. You still stay.It doesn’t feel like a relationship. It feels like a craving. In this post, Dr. Paul Lee breaks down why we can feel emotionally addicted to someone who’s not right for us, a..