The Mind Behind Love

Why do we keep ending up in relationships that hurt?You meet someone kind. They communicate well. They respect your boundaries. And yet... something inside you feels off. Maybe even bored. Meanwhile, the moment someone inconsistent or emotionally distant shows up, your heart races. You feel "chemistry." You feel "pulled."This isn’t love. It’s recognition. You're not drawn to them because they’re..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 9: Why We Fall for People Who Can’t Love Us BackYou give. You try. You wait. And still, they pull away. You’re left wondering why you keep falling for people who don’t—or won’t—love you back.This post by Dr. Paul Lee explores why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable people, what it says about our own attachment patterns, and how to begin choosing the love we ac..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 8: Why We Feel Addicted to the Wrong PersonYou know they’re not good for you. They make you anxious, confused, even hurt— but you still wait for their message. You still hope. You still stay.It doesn’t feel like a relationship. It feels like a craving. In this post, Dr. Paul Lee breaks down why we can feel emotionally addicted to someone who’s not right for us, a..

Love Psychology Series – Episode 7: Why We Chase Love That Hurts UsYou know it isn’t good for you. They pull away, disrespect you, or leave you feeling empty. And yet, you can’t stop going back. You call it love—but it feels more like pain.In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores why we sometimes become addicted to the very relationships that wound us, what psychological patterns keep us stuck, and h..

Why You Keep Falling for Emotionally Unavailable People (Love Psychology Series #6)They’re hot and cold. They open up just enough to keep you hooked—but never enough to feel safe. You try harder. You overthink. You hope they’ll change. And you wonder: “Why do I keep falling for people who don’t show up emotionally?”In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores the deeper psychological reasons why we are d..

Why We Fall for Potential, Not Reality (Love Psychology Series #5)Have you ever fallen for someone not for who they were, but for who they could become? You saw glimpses of kindness, brilliance, or emotional depth—and believed, “If they just healed, if they just opened up, this could be amazing.” You weren’t wrong. But you also weren’t in love with who they were—you were in love with who they mi..

Why We Mistake Obsession for Love (Love Psychology Series #4)You check your phone constantly. You replay every conversation. You feel high when they text back and low when they don't. You say it's love—but what if it's not?Obsession can feel like love. It's intense, all-consuming, and emotionally charged. But it's not the same as genuine connection. In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explores why we oft..

Why We Attract People Who Trigger Our Deepest Wounds (Love Psychology Series #3)It’s a cruel irony of love: the people we feel most drawn to are often the ones who bring up the pain we’ve tried hardest to forget. They push our buttons, reopen old wounds, and awaken fears we thought we’d buried. But instead of running, we lean in. We feel “chemistry.” We think, “This must be love.”In this post, D..

Why We Chase People Who Don’t Want Us (Love Psychology Series #2)It’s one of the most painful patterns in love: we give our heart to people who don’t seem to want it. We chase after those who pull away, remain emotionally unavailable, or give us just enough to keep us hoping—but never enough to feel secure.Why do we do this? Are we broken? Addicted to pain? Or is something deeper at play—somethi..

How Childhood Wounds Shape Adult Attraction (Love Psychology Series #1)Have you ever wondered why you’re drawn to people who are emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, or even distant? Often, what we call “our type” isn’t about preference—it’s about programming. Much of our adult attraction is silently shaped by the emotional blueprint we developed in childhood.In this post, Dr. Paul Lee explor..